Horrible, isn’t it? We’ve all been there. An argument arrives out of the blue, and it feels like a sledgehammer smashing your perfect love bubble. But the good news is, you can manage angry arguments and banish them from your life – no more argument stress. Sounds fantastic, doesn’t it!
Arguments will happen from time to time because let’s face it, and we are not robots. (Well not just yet) So, how can you handle these arguments when they appear? Well, there are several things you can do to calm things down.
Read on to find out four easy ways to take the sting out of any argument.
#1 Stick to the Main Argument
Arguments can sometimes be about the silliest of things:
- You’re sick to death of picking up clothes from the floor.
- You want to watch the television, but somebody keeps talking over it.
- The other person is annoying you because you are in a mood.
- You don’t have their attention.
Whatever the argument is about, make sure you stick to the main argument.
It is easy to start pitching in other issues and problems. That’s when the argument can escalate. So, make sure you keep the current argument in your head and forget everything else.
#2 Fresh Air
Sometimes when you are in the middle of an argument, your mind is racing. Random thoughts pop into your head. Your heart rate becomes elevated.
There is also a high chance that you will say something to make things worse. Sound familiar? If this is you, a trip outside into the fresh air could do yourself, and the argument wonders.
Take that break outside. It will help you to do the following:
- Kill the argument.
- You can come back refreshed and calmer.
- You will be more inclined and ready to resolve it.
Don’t forget to explain where and why you are going outside. Walking off without an explanation could make things worse 🙂
#3 Don’t Go To Bed Angry
I’m sure we have all heard this saying before. It’s something our grandparents say to us, but how many of us act on it? Think about it. If you go to bed still angry, you are not going to wake up feeling any better. More than likely, you will feel worse.
You see Mr Boxhead above. He looks pretty mean and miserable, doesn’t he? Don’t be like Mr Boxhead.
- Take the right steps to resolve the argument before you go to bed. Negative arguments are upsetting enough.
- Make a vow to yourself to never go to bed angry. You will feel less stressed and more like yourself.
#4 Manage Angry Arguments By Compromising
How often couples argue is not the best indicator of the health of a relationship. According to Upjourney, arguments can “help couples come to a common understanding or inspire couples to make changes that strengthen relationships.”
Who would have thought that was the case? But if you think about it, it makes perfect sense. One of the main things you can do, to manage angry arguments, is to learn the art of compromising. It’s also useful for you to know here that compromising isn’t you “losing” an argument.
Compromise gives you the following benefits:
- You can both see each other’s point of view and can take it into account.
- You could take it to the next level and talk about relationship goals.
- If you can both compromise, you will nearer to the end of the argument. Hurrah!
Nobody can escape arguments, as they are part and parcel of a relationship. These things happen from time to time. If you bear these points in mind next time you have a heated argument, it will help you manage angry arguments quicker.
In the meantime, if you want some more inspiration, check out the latest episode on What Does Happy Look Like? Podcast, which is all about relationships.
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Sally Leslie is a motivational coach and optimist. She helps freelancers and entrepreneurs create balance in their lives and work towards their personal and professional goals. Sally is also a B2B freelance writer for entrepreneurs, SMEs, and startups. A lover of plants, freedom, and football!