You have just broken up with the love of your life, and it hurts like hell. You feel like Robin without your Batman or salt without pepper. Everything feels alien, broken, and you feel alone. You wonder how you can get over a relationship breakup.
As Faraaz Kazi said, “No matter how bad your heart is broken, the world doesn’t stop for your grief.”
A relationship breakup can upset even the toughest of us. You start wondering if you will ever love again. Your heart feels like it is broken into tiny pieces.
The good news is, it doesn’t need to feel like that.
I asked three relationship experts what is the best thing you can do straight after a relationship breakup is? You will love their answers. Read on to get your life back on track.
I asked the relationship experts: “What one piece of positive advice would you give to people straight after a relationship breakup?” All of the responses I received were unique and highly insightful. Here are their answers, in no particular order, to help you get over a relationship breakup.
1) Abi Blears – Dating Coach and Matchmaker
“My piece of positive advice would be to be careful who you’re blaming. Much of the time when we go through a break-up we’re trying to assign blame and to figure out what went wrong. This is normal and part of the process. This usually leads to two common outcomes:
- Blaming yourself
- Blaming your ex-partner
Instead of pointing fingers and blaming either one of you (even though it’s tempting and NORMAL), it’s healthier to reach the point where you blame the situation, circumstance, or the relationship as a whole:
“We were incompatible”
“The timing wasn’t right”
“We wanted different things from a relationship”
“Our values were misaligned”
If we blame our ex-partner entirely we hold onto resentment, which might follow you into your next relationship. If we blame ourselves it can make us spiral into a state of extreme distress, also making us a less enjoyable dating prospect and hindering our ability to move forward.”
2) James Preece – Relationship Expert and Dating Coach
3) Ieva Kambarovaite – Relationship and Dating Coach
Ieva Kambarovaite, Author of “Why Am I Still Single” (for women), said:
“I think one of the most important things is not to become bitter after you break up with someone. I see too many women that break up with a guy who may have cheated on them and then they start thinking that all men are cheaters.
Some put a massive guard on to make sure no one can hurt them ever again. They don’t let themselves trust or be vulnerable. This makes it challenging when meeting new people.
If you’re not willing to take that risk and show more of who you are, you’ll attract those that are not invested in you; the emotionally unavailable, committed to someone else, married, or those that only remember you when bored.”
You wouldn’t stop eating ice cream just because your silk blouse got ruined while enjoying gelato on a sunny day, right? Then why stop believing in love just because a relationship didn’t turn the way you wanted it to.”
In Conclusion – Relationship Breakups
Personal development is a vast subject and learning how to get over a relationship breakup is a valuable skill to have in your back pocket. You don’t need to suffer and feel worse. Use this advice from the experts to help you handle this situation if it arises in your life.
Relationships breakups can be tricky. But when you know how to handle them correctly after a breakup, you can put your heart out there and love again.
Also, remember not to feel ashamed if you find you are struggling with it all. Ask for help if you need it; maybe one of the experts in this article can help you!
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Sally Leslie is a motivational coach and speechwriter. She helps people to stay motivated and create balance in their lives. She is passionate about helping people think differently and grow. Sally also creates content for businesses, entrepreneurs, and startups. Lover of plants, freedom, and football!