A Geehair survey of 2,000 adults in 2021 found more than 50% of young people worry about what others think about them. The survey also discovered 80% of people aged 35-54 are not confident in their appearance. If you can relate to these statistics, you might have had a few setbacks which have knocked your confidence over the years. It could have been a bad job, a relationship, or an illness. Whatever it was, don’t despair. It is possible to get over these moments and build confidence in yourself again. Perhaps you have already tried to do it but have been unsuccessful. It can be demoralising when it doesn’t go well. We’ve all been there, and so have I. The good thing is, you can makes changes to your life to make yourself feel more confident.
You don’t need to go out all guns blazing to build confidence in yourself. Try making these minor adjustments whenever you can. You will be surprised how easy it is. It might feel a bit scary, but you won’t know unless you give it a go. Right? Put the following changes slowly into place and feel the difference in your confidence level.
We have all done things that we are proud of, but it can be easy for you to forget your accomplishments. On those days when you feel less confident, try this out. Grab yourself a pen and paper and write down three incredible things you have done. It could be a personal achievement, such as completing a difficult trek or helping somebody in need. Or it might be a project you completed at work to great success.
Why This Will Help You
- The key thing here is to write it down physically. This simple act is more interactive than typing a few things on a PC or tablet.
- You can refer to your list whenever you need it.
- Also, consider making a new list at the end of every month. Every day we are accomplishing new things, but we might not realise it.
It Doesn’t Matter What Other People Think About You
Think about all those times you haven’t done anything because you were worried about what people think about you. Read that sentence again. Yes, I bet you have done it. We all do at different times in our lives. But there comes the point when you have to let this go. It doesn’t matter what anybody thinks about your actions in life. Do whatever makes your heart sing. You don’t need approval from anybody else. As long as it is a happy, healthy action that doesn’t hurt others, go for it!
”If you want to improve your self-worth, stop giving other people the calculator.”
Hold on to the Calculator and Build Confidence in Yourself
Don’t give anybody the calculator. You can take ownership of your decisions in life. Empower yourself by being true to yourself always. Of course, listen to the advice and ideas of your family and friends. But at the end of the day, you can decide what is best for you. You will know deep down inside of you as you will feel it. It’s your life, so live it the way you want to. It will help you to build your confidence.
Small Steps Every Day To Build Your Confidence
It doesn’t matter if you take lots of little steps. Everybody is different and works at their own pace. So don’t be hard on yourself if you don’t see big changes quickly. Doing a little bit each day is better than doing nothing. More importantly, keep going. Showing up every day is the best way you can push yourself and build your confidence. Try these personal development hacks for inspiration.
- Read the book you always wanted to and learn something new.
- Apply for that job that pushes you and have no fear about the outcome.
- Join a group of new people and burst outside your comfort zone.
- Go on a date and maybe meet somebody of your dreams.
Be Your Authentic Self
Maybe you like to do things differently. Or want to do something nobody has ever done before. These are unique traits to have. Being different is like having a superpower. Embrace who you are and live the life you want to live. Wear whatever colours you want to wear to boost your confidence. Be your authentic self. You will feel far more settled and confident in yourself. You don’t need to act like anybody else. Be yourself and enjoy it!
Grow Older and Wiser
As you get older, you might feel more self-conscious about how your body and mind is changing. Accept that it is normal for yourself to change as you age. It will help you get your head around it. You will be more gentle with yourself and won’t feel so self-conscious. It is best if you can try to lead a healthy and happy life. It is far better than pushing yourself too hard and making yourself ill. Grow old with style and enjoy the “now” moments instead of wishing you were younger.
You can take control of your confidence by creating a different mindset. Look at the points above and start making these small changes in your life. It will take a little time, but it will be easier to achieve when you build confidence in yourself slowly. Our life experiences will always influence who we are as a person. But you can learn from the negative experiences and create a better life.
Don’t be scared to push yourself to become a better version of yourself. It will help you to achieve more out of life and become a more confident person whatever you decide to do. Also, as you grow older, you can use your life experiences, both negative and positive. You don’t need to stay where you are right now. You can move forward and enrich your life. You can give it a go and see the results!
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Sally Leslie is a motivational coach and optimist. She helps freelancers and entrepreneurs create balance in their lives and work towards their personal and professional goals. Sally is also a B2B freelance writer for entrepreneurs, SMEs, and startups. A lover of plants, freedom, and football!