After a relationship breakup, it can be hard to figure out how you can move on. They were the love of your life and you now feel broken. Everything in your world feels lost. You wonder how you can survive without them?
But all is not lost. Life does go on and you will meet somebody again. The origin of the word relationship dates back to the 1640s. When a “relationship” was a “sense or state of being related”. When you no longer have this feeling and connection, you can feel very alone. But the important thing to remember, is that you are an individual and you can choose to move on to an even better life 🙂
8 Ways To Move On After A Relationship Breakup
1) Balance
Look back at the relationship and be honest with yourself. Was the balance right?
In all relationships there should be a fine balance between giving and taking. Of course it is not always easy to achieve this balance on a day-to-day basis. We are all having to deal with the world and problems that come at us. There needs to be a balance between you both, in order for it to work.
It is great to be there for a partner and to look out for them. But check that you are not the doing all the giving … you are looking for somebody that enriches your life and makes you happy. If you think back and remember that you were not getting back, what you were giving to them, the breakup was a blessing in disguise.
Remember this for next time – get the balance right ! 🙂
2) Start Enjoying Your Own Company
3) Complete Removal From Social Media
You have broken up and you can see their face everywhere! Thanks to social media, they are on Facebook, Twitter etc.
Set an afternoon aside, grab a cup of coffee/tea and start eliminating. It will be a painful process. But taking away those images of you both together, can only help you move forward quicker. It can feel quite liberating and make you start thinking of the future, instead of the present and how you feel so sad. All those good experiences that you had together, will still be there in your memories.
4) Accept That It Has Happened
It is only natural, but you will be in denial of the relationship breakup. Try as soon as you can to accept that it has happened and that your relationship is no more. The sooner that you can Accept this is the case, you will find that your thought processes are different. Over time it will start feeling like a past event, instead of a raw real time happening.
5) Treat Yourself
You need to think about you now. Sometimes a relationship breakup can come from out of the blue or perhaps you knew the breakup was on its way. Either way, you will have had a huge shock. So now it is time to give yourself some love. A relationship breakup can take its toll. Think about the ways you like to destress. Book that Spa day and have a pamper. Go on that special holiday that you have been thinking about. It’s all about you now!
6) Take Time Before Starting A New Relationship
7) Release The Emotion
8) Visualise The New You
Go ahead! Visualise the new you.
You can choose to be sad or happy. Or in love. You are completely in charge of the new you. Visualise the new you and how you want to be in your next relationship.
Learn from your last relationships. This can stop you from making the same mistakes. But it can also remind you about the good things that did work. So you can make sure that The New You is going to be more happier and more comfortable in their next relationship.
The New You is around the corner. You are already on your way there!
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Sally Leslie is a motivational coach and optimist. She helps freelancers and entrepreneurs create balance in their lives and work towards their personal and professional goals. Sally is also a B2B freelance writer for entrepreneurs, SMEs, and startups. A lover of plants, freedom, and football!
Thanks, it is very informative
Thanks Cristine! Glad that it was helpful.
Nice article.. after breakup first time i read motivational article like this and it is really helping me thank you so much
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Thanks, it’s very informative
Thanks Kelli! Hope it was helpful for you 🙂