For men it can sometimes be very difficult to have confidence with women. Many find that the prospect of rejection is overwhelming and this stops them in their tracks. Finding this inner confidence is the first step. Not only will it enable you to speak to women with this new found confidence, but it will help you in all areas of your life.
5 Tips To Have Confidence With Women
1. Act Straight Away
As soon as you see somebody you like, this is the time to act. Make sure that you start walking towards her, to engage in a conversation. If you stand still and start “thinking about it”, you will probably talk yourself out of doing it. Your heart will start racing fast, you will have a dry mouth, etc. But if you just take a leap of faith, you are on your way 🙂
2. Eye Contact
We have heard it all before, but…this is important. If you start talking to a women and you can not make eye contact with her, you will come across as awkward. Not only will it become hard for you continue your conversation with her, but she will also feel awkward. Just look in to her eyes and relax. Imagine she is one of your friends and the conversation will flow. Be yourself.
Let’s face it men and women are so very different. But that is what makes us different…the differences. One thing that women love, is when a man listens to her. There are always jokes about women talking too much and men not listening 🙂
But when a woman talks and a man is genuinely listening to her, it makes her feel special. Listening is a valuable skill, not only in relationships but in all areas of your life.
4. Use Humour
All women love humour. Not only does it make you sound confident, it also leaves a lasting impression. Maybe one of your jokes really made them laugh. They will remember that moment and you! If humour does not come naturally to you, do a bit of research online for some funny jokes and try them out on your friends first. They will be able to tell you which ones are the best.
5. What About Afterwards?
Do Not Over Analyse Your Conversation!
Just accept the fact and be proud that you had the confidence to talk with a woman. Even give yourself a pat on the back.
It will not help you at all by over analysing the conversation. If you think about it too much, you might feel that you said the wrong thing, or did not have enough eye contact or your jokes were rubbish 🙂
The most important thing is to just enjoy the moment that you had and as Doris Day said “Whatever will be, will be”.
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Sally Leslie is a motivational coach and optimist. She helps freelancers and entrepreneurs create balance in their lives and work towards their personal and professional goals. Sally is also a B2B freelance writer for entrepreneurs, SMEs, and startups. A lover of plants, freedom, and football!